Wednesday, December 2, 2009
"Many people consider cheating to be any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, which may or may not include sexual monogamy."- Wikipedia
"Love is a strong liking for someone. It's a strong passionate affection for another person."
"Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things."
I know cheating is "bad" and "wrong" because I have grown up to believe so and because it hurts to be cheated on.
Wrong means "not according to rule". What rule?
I don't know exactly why cheating is wrong asides that it hurts...
Maybe cheating is wrong because it hurts the other party's feelings and if you love someone you are supposed to be conscious of the other person's feelings.
But then again, people that "cheat" don't intend for the other person's feeling to be hurt...'cause they hope and assume the person doesn't find out.
When I think of someone cheating on me;
I automatically think he doesn't love me
-Well maybe he doesn't, if he hasn't told me "I love you" then he did not exactly lie...so, why is he wrong for "cheating"?
-Maybe he does and he made it known. Guys don't get emotional gratification from having sex with another party, its the sexual gratification.
In an argument some guy said; A guy will love you and still cheat on you. I did not agree then, but I have always wondered about it.
I hate to use this example, xxx loves xxx, I'm absolutely sure of this. But he definitely "cheats" or has "cheated" during the course of their relationship.
I hate when people try to advice a girl in a relationship to get out of it solely because the guy is cheating. Yh i know, its "bad". Honey, your boyfriend is cheating too, you are just not sharp enough to know, or you guys have not dated long enough for him to start having the urge to feel the warmth of another girl's vajayjay. The next guy is most likely going to cheat too.
Hmn..maybe my thoughts are absolutely disorganized or I have bn in too many dysfunctional relationships...and I'm starting to accept the things I can not change.
I am not saying cheating should be allowed for whatever reason...just my train of thoughts at the moment. Tiger Woods issue really got me thinking.
I am not talking about just guys cheating..all my arguments applies to both sides. I think people cheat, men and women alike, when the opportunity arises.